Wendy Cope Poetry

Joan thanks for the piece of poetry!

I liked what you sent and went to look at the name and what else she had written and found the following:

Love is all...
A selection of Wendy Cope's light-hearted, comical poems

Nobody can match Wendy Cope when it comes to writing about men and love. She captures perfectly the shortcomings of the former and the disappointments of the latter – but, despite the compromises we make and the heartbreak we suffer in search of romance, her wise and witty poems ultimately celebrate the joie de vivre which only true love brings. Here is a selection from a new anthology of her writing

Valentine
My heart has made its mind up
And I’m afraid it’s you.
Whatever you’ve got lined up,
My heart has made its mind up
And if you can’t be signed up
This year, next year will do.
My heart has made its mind up
And I’m afraid it’s you.


Bloody Men
Bloody men are like bloody buses —
You wait for about a year
And as soon as one approaches your stop
Two or three others appear.

You look at them flashing their indicators,
Offering you a ride.
You’re trying to read the destinations,
You haven’t much time to decide.

If you make a mistake, there is no turning back.
Jump off, and you’ll stand there and gaze
While the cars and the taxis and lorries go by
And the minutes, the hours, the days.


Rondeau Redouble
There are so many kinds of awful men —
One can’t avoid them all. She often said
She’d never make the same mistake again:
She always made a new mistake instead.

The chinless type who made her feel ill-bred;
The practised charmer, less than charming when
He talked about the wife and kids and fled —
There are so many kinds of awful men.

The half-crazed hippy, deeply into Zen,
Whose cryptic homilies she came to dread;
The fervent youth who worshipped Tony Benn —
‘One can’t avoid them all,’ she often said.

The ageing banker, rich and overfed,
Who held forth on the dollar and the yen —
Though there were many more mistakes ahead,
She’d never make the same mistake again.

The budding poet, scribbling in his den
Odes not to her but to his pussy, Fred;
The drunk who fell asleep at nine or ten —
She always made a new mistake instead.

And so the gambler was at least unwed
And didn’t preach or sneer or wield a pen
Or hoard his wealth or take the Scotch to bed.
She’d lived and learned and lived and learned but then
There are so many kinds.


Spared
‘That Love is all there is,
Is all we know of Love…’
— Emily Dickinson

It wasn’t you, it wasn’t me,
Up there, two thousand feet above
A New York street. We’re safe and free,
A little while, to live and love,

Imagining what might have been –
The phone call from the blazing tower,
A last farewell on the machine,
While someone sleeps another hour,

Or worse, perhaps, to say goodbye
And listen to each other’s pain,
Send helpless love across the sky,
Knowing we’ll never meet again,

Or jump together, hand in hand,
To certain death. Spared all of this
For now, how well I understand
That love is all, is all there is.

LOSS
The day he moved out was terrible –
That evening she went through hell.
His absence wasn’t a problem
But the corkscrew had gone as well.

Faint praise
Size isn’t everything. It’s what you do
That matters, darling, and you do it quite well
In some respects. Credit where credit’s due –
You work, you’re literate, you rarely smell.
Small men can be aggressive, people say,
But you are often genial and kind,
As long as you can have things all your way
And I comply, and do not speak my mind.
You look all right. I’ve never been disgusted
By paunchiness. Who wants some skinny youth?
My friends have warned me that you can’t be trusted
But I protest I’ve heard you tell the truth.
Nobody’s perfect. Now and then, my pet,
You’re almost human. You could make it yet.

The Orange

At lunchtime I bought a huge orange —
The size of it made us all laugh.
I peeled and shared it with Robert and Dave —

They got quarters and I had a half.

And that orange, it made me so happy,
As ordinary things often do
Just lately. The shopping. A walk in the park.
This is peace and contentment. It’s new.

The rest of the day was quite easy.
I did all the jobs on my list

And enjoyed them and had some time over.
I love you. I’m glad I exist.
Two cures for love
1 Don’t see him. Don’t phone or write a letter.
2 The easy way: get to know him better.

Flowers
Some men never think of it.
You did. You’d come along
And say you’d nearly brought me flowers
But something had gone wrong.

The shop was closed. Or you had doubts —
The sort that minds like ours
Dream up incessantly. You thought
I might not want your flowers.

It made me smile and hug you then.
Now I can only smile.
But, look, the flowers you nearly brought
Have lasted all this while.

After the lunch
On Waterloo Bridge, where we said our goodbyes,
The weather conditions bring tears to my eyes.
I wipe them away with a black woolly glove
And try not to notice I’ve fallen in love.

On Waterloo Bridge I am trying to think:
This is nothing. You’re high on the charm and the drink.
But the juke-box inside me is playing a song
That says something different. And when was it wrong?

On Waterloo Bridge with the wind in my hair
I am tempted to skip. You’re a fool. I don’t care.
The head does its best but the heart is the boss —
I admit it before I am halfway across.

Two Cures for Love: Selected Poems 1979-2006 by Wendy Cope is published by Faber on Thursday, price £12.99. To order a copy with free p&p call the YOU Bookshop on 0845 606 4204, or go to you-bookshop.co.uk

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Joan,
Yes, I liked what I read too! It captures exactly this type of tug between men and women. The one wanting desperately to find he loves her and at the same time being aware that men tick differently and for them, the motorbike engine needs polishing and lavishing their love on it, instead of putting their arms around this woman who is hanging out on a limb, waiting for a small slither of their attention!

I just read again:
Valentine
My heart has made its mind up
And I’m afraid it’s you.
Whatever you’ve got lined up,
My heart has made its mind up
And if you can’t be signed up
This year, next year will do.
My heart has made its mind up
And I’m afraid it’s you.

There is a certain clarity in the repeat of the words: And I'm afraid it's you and also the making up of the mind of her heart.

We had over the weekend a Father Heart Conference snippet for an evening and a day. It was just marvellous! They talked there of the two knowledges. The head knowledge - the stuff we learn at school, are trained at, to master our working lives, the legalistic approach to everything and then the other kind of understanding - love which comes from the eyes of our heart, that we cannot learn about, there are also no laws governing it, but we either have or discover it, but cannot attain this by reading or studying it. The unknown love which the Father's heart endows us with, if we can put away the gears of our head.

We women have more of the latter - love and perhaps a majority of the men have the other? The work of bridging these two is women's constant work, the place where men have such difficulty to step out and where women suffer the daily trials of bringing it across to the non-receiving men.

She then goes on to say: And if you can’t be signed up This year, next year will do.

A certain resignation about how long it is going to take for him to cotton on to the yearnings of her heart! Also a certain humbling, of not having much choice in all of this.

In all her poetry in these excerpts, there is a certain practical acceptance of the reality of men's ways and women's being different. A kind of, "Blast it, this is reality!' or the cork screw is missing and did I ever really love him or lavish him with my attention? or this other one:

Two cures for love
1 Don’t see him. Don’t phone or write a letter.
2 The easy way: get to know him better.

Oh boy, this is getting TOO close to the reality of so many people's relationships! Yes, how true that getting to know someone better can really strip the tinsel off our hearts and eyes or the eyes of our hearts? The nitty gritty of life is just so mundane. The not closing the toothpaste tube fights, because it's not about the paste, but about our own blindness to the reality that makes someone else in our lives suddenly clearly pretty normal and not quite so endearing. We are not even fighting with them, but angry with ourselves for having been so blind to plain old mundane reality and NOW WE HAVE TRAPPED OURSELVES AND WANT OUT.

It sounds like a wonderful book! I think I would also like to have a book of hers too. What did it cost?

Love to you Joan,

Bridget