SO WHAT TO DO WITH STRESS?

I discovered EFT which stands for EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE some 4 years ago, when I first arrived in NZ. True to my way of approaching something I find intensively interesting, is to embrace if completely, until I have exhausted all I feel I need to know about it.

I have not exhausted all I have to know about it, but it has become one of the things I practice to help myself and others in need. Because it is a quick way of releasing tension and resolving ANY problem I might be feeling intensely and need to rid myself of immediately.

About 24 years ago, I attended a yearlong intense training to become a worker on the anonymous telephones in Germany with the Lutheran Church. This training and the work we did has moulded me extremely. My fascination with psychology has never ceased. (In fact I have decided if I survive my cancer journey, I will go to uni to study theology and psychology.) We all had anonymous names and had to work several shifts a month.

I stopped the work after some years, because I felt that we might be helping people, but there was also a certain layer of society being supported to not change by the method we used on the phone of mollycoddling people into not taking up responsibility for themselves and beginning to change. The other phenomena I noticed, which I disliked intensely was, that there were people working there who seemed to need a set of fans, followers. We were 80 people working there and I felt others might have another approach to the subject, different to mine. I also felt we were the first port of call and thereafter the people should look for the safety net outside of the anonymous telephone system.

I BEGAN TO USE EFT ON MYSELF AND FOUND MYSELF BEGINNING TO ACCEPT AND LOVE MYSELF MORE AND MORE. I FOUND I CHANGED MY OPINION OF MYSELF AND AS I USED A DIARY FOR THIS WORK, I FOUND WHEN I RETURNED TO PROBLEMS I HAD HAD, THEY WERE GONE! JUST NO SENTIMENT WAS TO BE FOUND IN MY MIND, WHICH TALLIED WITH SOME OF THE STATEMENTS I FOUND WRITTEN THERE PREVIOUSLY!!! THIS IS STILL THE CASE TODAY. FOR ME, MOST OF THE PROBLEMS I WAS FEELING HAVE BEEN ERADICATED.

So, I continued to use this method, when I remembered.

I also found though, that I began to NOT use it and forget to use it. A phenomenon I find rather difficult to understand. How is it possible to have had such success and then NOT want to use this method? To be in difficulty and not immediately resort to this EASY WAY TO RID MYSELF OF ANXIETY, SEEMS RATHER PECULIAR. I have yet to find out the reason, but now I am able to speak about it, I find that this normally helps me to begin to resolve something. Once I am able to express a problem I have openly, I am also able to find an answer more easily. In other words when the thoughts are dragged from the bowels of my brain and aired, then we are on the track to resolution!

I bought all the CDS and DVD’s available from Gary Craig and passed exams set by Pat Carrington. They are the kind of things I should listen to over and over again, as they remind you that you learned things, which may have slipped your mind.

There came a time, when I decided I need to try this out and see what others think of it. I was diffident and at first had no idea as to how I would be able to find people needing this type of work to be done on them.

I have been trained as a Bowen Therapist and therefore I work in the area of helping people with physical pain. They could come to me for anything from respiratory problems or lower back pain, you name it, Bowen can resolve a huge amount of problems people have. But normally we say that if a problem has not resolved at all after two, maximum three sessions, then there is something else behind it.

One day I had such a client who came twice for a shoulder pain and on her third visit she told me, it did not seem to be helping. So I suggested to her that I have this method, which might help her problem. It would not hurt her, but she should understand that I am not doing anything magical, but that this is a meridian therapy and we work on energy lines, similar to electric circuits in the body and there is a method of perhaps resolving her pain. Because sometimes we feel physical pain, even when it is not physical, because the anguish we are having is so painful to us. I assured her I would not charge her, as this was as much an experiment for her, as it was for me!

So here I was, trying to find out what was the ladies real problem? I used some of the things I had tried on myself and learned about, but found this was not helping me to get to what could be the issue. We did a few rounds and then suddenly I had some inspiration, some would call it intuition! I suddenly asked her was your mother a cleanliness fanatic? Where I got this question from, I will never know! She confirmed that she had to wash her hands constantly as a child at her mother’s behest and that today she still washed them an awful lot and she wished she could get rid of this.

I then changed tack and worked on this subject and no longer mentioned the sore shoulder. Shortly after this, we tested to see how her shoulder was. THE PAIN WAS GONE! She of course was unwilling to accept this and began to do the most abnormal gyrations with her shoulder. To no avail! The pain would NOT return.

She then asked me how she should understand this disappearance or pain? To which I replied, very undiplomatically that she had finally pushed her mother off her shoulder. She still being the dutiful daughter at the age of 60, of washing her hands and doing exactly what her mum would have told her to do at age ..., was then extremely angry with me and said, her mother was a really GOOD mother and that I had no right to talk to her about her mother in this way. She was probably correct to say this, but she had still not recognised that her shoulder was aching with the burden of carrying out all her mother’s wishes, still after 50 years. She had not yet grown up enough in this matter to find her own solution to how often she washed her hands and continued to be the dutiful daughter, even when it pained her. She was probably totally unaware of this problem.

The pain was gone and probably never returned. How was this possible within about 30 minutes of work, where she had been carrying the burden for about 50 years?

• I had perhaps given her permission to break this cycle?
• She took pity on the little girl and decided this was no longer necessary?

WE ACTUALLY DO NOT NEED TO KNOW THE WHY AND THE WHEREFORE, WE JUST HAVE TO KNOW SHE FOUND RELIEF.

NOW THIS WAS A PHYSICAL SYMPTOM, BUT MANY OF US CARRY AROUND SCARS OF MENTAL ANGUISH, STRESS, RECORDINGS FROM OUR CHILDHOOD WHICH CONTINUE TO PLAY DAY AND NIGHT IN OUR HEADS, THE SUBJECT OF NOT BEING LOVED, WHEN WE PROBABLY WERE, BUT NOT UNDERSTANDING THAT ADULTS ALSO CARRY AROUND SCARS FROM THEIR PAST AND PRESENT. WE INTERPRET THEIR BEHAVIOUR AS NOT LOVING US, NOT FINDING US GOOD ENOUGH, EXPECTING US TO BE A WAY WE ARE NOT ABLE TO BE, EXPECTING US TO PERFORM AND THEN WE WILL LOVE YOU MESSAGES. ARE ALL NOT HELPFUL TO THE DELICATE SOUL GROWING UP ON A SHAKY FOUNDATION, BEING UPROOTED BY PARENTAL BEHAVIOUR OR NOT GROUNDED FIRMLY IN LOVE, LEAVING US ALL WITH MIGHTY SCARS.

THESE SCARS ARE UNSEEN BECAUSE THEY ARE WRITTEN ON OUR SOULS, WHERE THE DAMAGE CAN CARRY ON FOREVER HOUNDING US AND GRINDING US DOWN. SOMETHING LIKE A PESTLE AND MORTAR ATTACHED TO A MOTOR, WHICH NEVER STOPS HURTING US AND POUNDING ON WOUNDS WHICH NEVER HEAL. THAT’S HOW SOME OF US FEEL.

EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CAN HELP PEOPLE FEELING LIKE THIS! RELEASE THEM QUICKLY AND EASILY FROM THINGS THAT BROUGHT TEARS TO THEIR EYES AT EVEN A THOUGHT ABOUT A SUBJECT.

WHO WOULD NOT WANT TO BE EMOTIONALLY FREE????

If you want some help on this subject, because you feel hounded or pounded by your past, please feel free to contact me. I have been using this method with clients for some years now and I find it very quick, efficient and bringing you to emotional freedom for any problem you might have.

We do not have to have face to face sessions, this work can be done from anywhere in the world, via Skype.

THERE ARE TWO PROVISOS I WOULD LIKE TO FOREWARN YOU ABOUT:

1. If you want to receive peace in your life, you need to integrate the method into your life and use it daily. I will teach you how to do the work, but you have to continue on your own to obtain the results.
2. Sometimes the problem we are having cannot be resolved by you on your own. Because you are unable to see yourself objectively enough. You need some else to show you what the problem is.
Much love to you my friend, doing EFT will help you to be free!

BRIDGET